Such a great question, right?

I’d like to ask you: Do you keep looking for a “cure” to your sensitivity? Do you keep trying to “fix” yourself? Do you think you are broken?

Here’s another question: Are you spinning your wheels asking yourself, “Why am I like this?” How much energy are you spending trying to find the answer that will solve the problem of who you are. 

First of all, it’s natural to want to know why. (Especially for inquisitive minds, and HSP’s have amazingly inquisitive minds!) However, if trying to solve the problem of who you are has become a barrier to self-acceptance and embracing yourself, I have another solution for you: Stop asking why and start accepting it. Own it. Embrace it.

Sensitivity and high empathy are part of who you are. They are the traits that make you uniquely you. They just are.

Spending too much time trying to “problem solve” our traits actually keeps us stuck. Would you obsessively ponder,

“Why do I have blue eyes?”

“Why is my hair brown?”

“Why, I ask…..WHY????????”

Likely, no.

What happens if you truly, deeply accept yourself? Freedom.

Once you learn to embrace all of who you are, that’s when a large part of the struggle ends. It’s when things will start to open up for you. It’s when you can lean into who you are and open up to the greatness that you’ve been keeping at bay.

So please watch the video below and let me know: Have you been rejecting part of yourself? Have you been stuck trying to fix yourself instead of embracing your whole self? Let me know!

And scroll all the way down to download my free eBook: From Hot Mess to Badass: 8 Steps to Empowerment for Highly Sensitive People.

With so much love,

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Cortney is a transformational coach, writer, speaker, mentor for Highly Sensitive Badasses TM, and founder of the coaching program: The Sensitive Badass Badass Personal Coaching Program and the Sensitive Badass Sisterhood. She is passionate about helping women tap into their unique brilliance through divine self-care so they can live their highest purpose and reach their full potential. She offers private and group transformational and empowerment coaching programs for highly sensitive and empathic women.

Cortney earned a B.A. from Vassar College in Art History and a Masters of Architecture from Catholic University. Following her heart later in life, she became certified as a health coach with the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. She became a “health architect,” dealing with her own health crisis and struggle to manage anxiety and depression. She is also a proud graduate of Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts Mastery program, a NYC institution that teaches women to use the power of pleasure to have their way with the world.

Cortney lives in Baltimore with her 2 kids, her dog and her husband. A passionate traveler, photographer, gardener and foodie, when she isn’t dancing or listening to music (her favorite things!), Cortney is all about engaging all of her senses in service to her inner badass—and awakening the inner badass in every highly sensitive person she encounters!

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  1. Kathryn February 19, 2017 at 10:04 pm Reply

    “Once you learn to embrace all of who you are, that’s when a large part of the struggle ends. It’s when things will start to open up for you. It’s when you can lean into who you are and open up to the greatness that you’ve been keeping at bay.”

    Everything you said here resonates with me so deeply. I was actually quite relieved and happy to learn why I am the way I am! I stopped seeing it as a bad thing and really started learning how to love myself better.

    Love your blog; so glad you’re spreading the word about we HSP’s!!!

    • thehighlysensitivebadass February 21, 2017 at 10:57 am Reply

      That’s so awesome, Kathryn!! I’m so glad you’ve learned how to embrace it. Thanks for your comment!!

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