Ok, this isn’t easy. Acceptance is a daily practice. Most of us run away and would happily trade in acceptance for all sorts of other vices: food, drinks, isolation, you name it. Acceptance means that you’re pretty much stuck with yourself. That doesn’t sound too appealing, does it? However, it’s freaking awesome. I can tell you that because I have gone through the pain of running away, the complete denial and resentment I felt over being highly-sensitive and I have come out the other side. And guess what? I actually like myself now. Scratch that. I deeply love myself. And yes, I’m still highly sensitive. That part didn’t change.

It wasn’t until I accepted that I was dealt the highly-sensitive hand that I was able to move beyond feeling trapped by it. Running away gave way to actually taking care of myself. I acknowledged that I had certain needs I had been ignoring and resisting. As I started taking better care of myself, I started to feel so much better. I was no longer living in a state of overwhelm and I was able to manage my energy. After a little while, I started to wonder if maybe I had been all wrong about myself. Maybe there were some great things about me. Maybe all the faults I had focused on for so much of my life weren’t as bad as I had made them out to be.

I started reframing my entire life. All the beliefs I had about myself began to shift as I started to focus and discover the positive aspects of myself. Over time, I’ve even learned to accept the darker sides of myself: the depression and anxiety I experience, the snappiness I’m prone to when I’m worn out, the anti-social side that can emerge; parts that I felt were wrong and I never wanted to acknowledge were part of who I was. It was all me, and it was ok.

Focusing on what I loved about myself was a huge start, and I encourage you to start there. What we focus on grows, and when you can find the beauty in yourself, and yes, it is there – I guarantee you, it’s there – your whole self will shift to a higher place. Focus on your beauty, on what’s fantastic and wonderful about you. We all have a little bit of everything in each of us.


With so much love,

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Cortney is a transformational coach, writer, speaker, mentor for Highly Sensitive Badasses TM, and founder of the coaching program: The Sensitive Badass Badass Personal Coaching Program and the Sensitive Badass Sisterhood. She is passionate about helping women tap into their unique brilliance through divine self-care so they can live their highest purpose and reach their full potential. She offers private and group transformational and empowerment coaching programs for highly sensitive and empathic women.

Cortney earned a B.A. from Vassar College in Art History and a Masters of Architecture from Catholic University. Following her heart later in life, she became certified as a health coach with the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. She became a “health architect,” dealing with her own health crisis and struggle to manage anxiety and depression. She is also a proud graduate of Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts Mastery program, a NYC institution that teaches women to use the power of pleasure to have their way with the world.

Cortney lives in Baltimore with her 2 kids, her dog and her husband. A passionate traveler, photographer, gardener and foodie, when she isn’t dancing or listening to music (her favorite things!), Cortney is all about engaging all of her senses in service to her inner badass—and awakening the inner badass in every highly sensitive person she encounters!

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