No joke, but I’ve been actively working on pleasure for the past few months. I spent way too many years perpetuating our culture’s revered self-sacrificing model of existence and to be frank, I’m tired of it! Who is with me?

I am determined to make this life the very best life I can live, but it can be so hard to break our pattern of giving, doing, giving, doing, sleep (maybe) and repeat. I asked my Facebook buddies about this recently, and I am now convinced that our attitude around pleasure, joy and doing things because we want to is a chronic condition.

I am not going to solve everyone’s chronic “doer” and “giver” mentality in this post, but what I am going to do is share my efforts with you. I’m going to show you that there is another way to live. Life is to be enjoyed, savored, experienced and lived. If you disagree with me, then you need more pleasure than those of you who are nodding along and agreeing!

It won’t happen overnight, but if we could all simply ask ourselves one question at least once a day, I would encourage that it be this: “What do I desire today?”

Then follow-up, and do something to make yourself feel good.

You are important. You are beautiful. And you are worthy.


With so much love,

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Cortney is a transformational coach, writer, speaker, mentor for Highly Sensitive Badasses TM, and founder of the coaching program: The Sensitive Badass Badass Personal Coaching Program and the Sensitive Badass Sisterhood. She is passionate about helping women tap into their unique brilliance through divine self-care so they can live their highest purpose and reach their full potential. She offers private and group transformational and empowerment coaching programs for highly sensitive and empathic women.

Cortney earned a B.A. from Vassar College in Art History and a Masters of Architecture from Catholic University. Following her heart later in life, she became certified as a health coach with the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. She became a “health architect,” dealing with her own health crisis and struggle to manage anxiety and depression. She is also a proud graduate of Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts Mastery program, a NYC institution that teaches women to use the power of pleasure to have their way with the world.

Cortney lives in Baltimore with her 2 kids, her dog and her husband. A passionate traveler, photographer, gardener and foodie, when she isn’t dancing or listening to music (her favorite things!), Cortney is all about engaging all of her senses in service to her inner badass—and awakening the inner badass in every highly sensitive person she encounters!

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  1. sensitive2energy June 15, 2016 at 9:02 pm Reply

    Namaste Beloved Angel Thanks for sharing and I love the energies from being in nature.Your video reminds me that I desire to do my healing process in nature.Thanks

  2. sensitive2energy June 16, 2016 at 12:30 am Reply

    You can visualize yourself there and your there hearing nature.

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