This week has been really inspirational for me.
There have been a lot of personal shifts going on in my life and it’s what inspired the video for this week (See below). In my business, I’ve been putting myself out there even more, and it brought up a lot of “gunk” that I’ve had the opportunity to work through.
It’s scary to be vulnerable and open, and while I have been pretty courageous this past year, I was invited to go even bigger this past week, both in my business and in my personal life. As they say, “Shift happens.”
“Everything you want stands on the other side of fear.” I have no idea who said this or if this is even the correct quote, but it’s so true. 🙂
If I want to have a greater impact and reach more people in my business, my personal life must support this. When I’m “doing it all myself” (as I’m prone to do) and serving my family without asking for help or delegating, everything suffers – including my business and therefore, the people I’m here to serve.
Highly sensitive people often put themselves dead last when it comes to meeting our own needs.
We often say, “It’s just easier if I do it myself.” Does this ring a bell? Believe me, it’s my absolute instinct to do it all myself.
Why do we do this?
There are two huge reasons why:
1. We are afraid of being vulnerable. What happens if we ask for our needs to be met or take a stand and we are rejected in some way?
2. We are afraid of the reaction we will get when we show up powerfully – also known as conflict averse. We are so sensitive to the reactions and emotions of others that the fear of the potential conflict could arise from our “stand” often stops us dead in our tracks, and we don’t ever get around to taking action.
In today’s video, I challenge this.
This week I invite to you ask yourself: What is the cost of “doing it all?” What is the cost of not “taking a stand?” What is the cost of not standing in your power?
In perfect and divine timing, one of my clients has also demonstrated what can shift when we draw a line in the sand, take a stand and own our power.
When we started working together, Julie was doing everything for everybody and self-sacrificing, out of touch with what she wanted for herself, and settling in one area of her life that brings her tremendous joy: her beautiful home. She was “trying to be ok” with negative physical living conditions with a loving partner who struggles with hoarding disorder.
For Julie, home is her sacred space. However, because of her husband’s hoarding, her home conditions were draining her daily – creating feelings of overwhelm, depression and resentment, making it very difficult for her to sustain her own self-care – not to mention putting a huge strain on her marriage.
She had no idea what if felt like to put herself first and because of this, finding creative solutions to what seemed like an unsolvable situation was difficult. She felt like things would never change and that she would have to figure out how to accept a situation that was making her deeply unhappy.
In the past month, Julie has stepped into her power and is prioritizing her self in a way she never has in her life. And the payback is huge. For the first time in her life, Julie is asking for her needs to be met without guilt. After our work on shifting her mindset to prioritize her own self-care, she has temporarily moved out and her husband has hired an organizer to help with the house.
She is unapologetically taking the time she needs to focus on herself while supporting her husband to focus on this brave task of his own, something she couldn’t imagine just a few short months ago. She is learning new boundaries and owning her own self-worth in a way she has never imagined.
When I saw her this week, there was a palpable change to her energy. She said,
“I never had any idea how much this (her living conditions) was affecting me. Now that it has shifted, dare I say…I’m happy! I feel so different and it’s the first time I’m realizing that things won’t fall apart without me if I don’t take care of everything.”
Not only has she massively shifted her living conditions by powerfully taking a stand and lovingly asking for her needs to be met, she is no longer shy about taking time she needs to recharge her batteries. In fact, she is taking more solo trips to visit friends and family – something she felt guilty about doing in the past because it meant taking time away from some of her commitments. The best part? She has shed so many layers of stress and resentment that she is recommitted to her marriage.
How amazing is that??? This was so powerful for her! And so inspiring to me that I had to share her story with you. I hope she inspires you as much as she has inspired me.
As always, I would love to hear from you, so please comment below to let me know your a-ha’s and takeaways from this week’s love note!
All my love,
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