I’ve worked with so many people over the past few years, and most of us seem to have a tremendously hard time wrapping our brains around that fact that we are worth taking care of. We are worth putting our own happiness and self-care right up there with everything else on our to-do list! Seriously!!

I speak from experience. I used to sacrifice everything for my family. I felt they needed me there all the time and I was completely deficient in happiness, pleasure, time for myself, overall well being and health. I was miserable. I was happy at times, but deep down, I was suffering for it.

I think that HSP’s in particular have a difficult time asking for what we need and setting boundaries because we care so deeply about other people’s happiness, so we put ourselves in situations that may not be what we truly want, or in situations that drain our energy. We might also sacrifice what we truly want or fail to put up the boundary because we don’t want to feel their emotion, whether it’s disappointment, anger, sadness, etc. So many of us are empaths and can feel what others are feeling. This is so uncomfortable for us that we love avoiding the discomfort of this! We will very often stay in situations that are hurting us just to avoid hurting someone else.

I offer another way of looking at this in today’s video. I’ve summarized below, but I hope you’ll watch because it’s got a bit more juice than my summary. Please share your thoughts in the comment section below!

We all need self-care and boundaries. Each and every one of us. Some of us believe that it’s selfish to put ourselves first. I want to scream it from the rooftops: Self-care is the most selfless thing you can do! It benefits every single person around you. When you are functioning at an optimal level, or even a little bit better than you are right now, you are better at everything you do. A better partner, friend, father, daughter, son, daughter, boss, employee…you get the idea.

Ok, so go back and watch the video if you skipped it. I have a lot more content in there, and I really get on a roll toward the end….


With so much love,

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Cortney is a transformational coach, writer, speaker, mentor for Highly Sensitive Badasses TM, and founder of the coaching program: The Sensitive Badass Badass Personal Coaching Program and the Sensitive Badass Sisterhood. She is passionate about helping women tap into their unique brilliance through divine self-care so they can live their highest purpose and reach their full potential. She offers private and group transformational and empowerment coaching programs for highly sensitive and empathic women.

Cortney earned a B.A. from Vassar College in Art History and a Masters of Architecture from Catholic University. Following her heart later in life, she became certified as a health coach with the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. She became a “health architect,” dealing with her own health crisis and struggle to manage anxiety and depression. She is also a proud graduate of Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts Mastery program, a NYC institution that teaches women to use the power of pleasure to have their way with the world.

Cortney lives in Baltimore with her 2 kids, her dog and her husband. A passionate traveler, photographer, gardener and foodie, when she isn’t dancing or listening to music (her favorite things!), Cortney is all about engaging all of her senses in service to her inner badass—and awakening the inner badass in every highly sensitive person she encounters!

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